Life Review

One of the hallmarks of near death experiences is the life review. Every account I have read includes some type of the following:

Heading toward some type of bright light

Beholding being(s) of glory

Overwhelming sense of love

Life Review

Near death experiences also change those who experience them. Their priorities change and they become less materialistic and more spiritual. They realize that there is nothing to fear in death and this deeper understanding helps them live life fully.

When I consider the common characteristics of a near death experience, I’m inclined to ask, “what, if any, of the above commonalities, can those of us who have never “almost died” experience?

I’ve felt moments of incredible love. Those moments were impactful. I also conduct “Life Reviews” regularly. In fact, I grew up doing a form of a life review every New Year’s as I examined the prior year and set goals for the year forthcoming. Each Sunday, as I partake of the sacrament, I think of my actions during the week and consider ways I can improve. And daily, before I retire to bed, I examine my day and look for areas I was less than stellar. I also look for times when I did myself, God, and others proud.

I’m a firm believer that we don’t have to wait till the day we die to examine our lives. We can enjoy the peace and improvement life brings when we play judge and jury daily–even hour by hour and minute by minute.  Self-awareness improves behavior best. When we look inward to uncover motives and seek to understand why we engage in certain behaviors and why we feel certain ways, we will create opportunities for change within ourselves. Today was a good day. I am already conducting a life review. I was able to handle some pretty intense professional and personal conversations in a mature manner. I was able to spend some quality time with my family, and I had a total blast playing basketball with my friends. I can think of a few areas where I could have done better and I’m exploring my reactions now so I can do better next time. I don’t think I will go so far as to claim that the “unexamined life is not worth living,” but I will say, “an unexamined life has little chance of improving.”

Here’s to conducting a daily life review.

Leo

I just started my first book on astrology and am having a lot of fun reading all about the various astrological signs. And I’m actually surprised at how accurate my description is as well as the descriptions I just read for my spouse and my older brother and little sister. I haven’t yet read all the deets on everyone’s signs, but plan to in a moment. For now, I thought it would  be fun to read the Zodiac for Leo:

Leo Strength Keywords:

– Confident
– Ambitious
– Generous
– Loyal
– Encouraging

Leo Weakness Keywords:

– Pretentious
– Domineering
– Melodramatic
– Stubborn
– Vain

Leo and Independence:

Leo is very independent but they need something to control and someone to admire them and appreciate them. They are fully capable of being greatly successful on their own but they are much happier if they have an audience and a following of people who look up to them. They would prefer not be alone.

Leo and Friendship:

People are attracted to Leo’s zest for life and their warm spirit. They have the ability to lift up one’s spirits and provide encouragement when times are rough. Their enthusiasm attracts people, Leos are social butterflies, not because they want to be but because people always naturally gravitate and surround the Leo. Leos are very difficult people to not like, they are usually fairly balanced, realistic people. They never dwell on the past and they will think you are strange if you do. Some Leos might be too caught up in themselves and be very self-centered but they are never too self-absorbed to help anyone who needs it. They pamper their friends and treat them well. A Leo is the ultimate friend. They do not hold a grudge and they are very forgiving. They have respect and understanding of people’s differences.

Leo and Business:

Business dealings are easy and successful for Leo, if they are in command and control. This can cause conflict in the workplace should the Leo not be in a position of superiority, but they usually get there eventually thanks to their powerful drive to succeed, in other words, they are excellent leaders because this is their kingdom they have to control, and they do it well. Leo has an amazing ability to get along with people and they work best in a group as opposed to alone. They can be very diplomatic in a group setting and can delegate people well, however, Leo will not take orders. They need to give orders but with their enthusiasm and cheerfulness, other people do not have a problem taking orders from a Leo because they are never condescending and they treat others with respect and equality. Leos are full of drama, flair, and extravagance and this reflects in the business world. They make an impact, they make a difference in the workplace and help to keep the parts moving in sync and iron out any problems before they arise. If the business fails, that means that Leo fails and they are extremely determined not to fail. Leo is the most extravagant sender of all astrology signs. They will not over do it but they will surround themselves with luxury as much as possible. They will never settle for second best.

Leo Temperament:

Leo loves the new and extraordinary, they despise dull, regular routines and if this is what they are faced with, they will simply create their own drama and excitement. This makes Leo prone to stir up a situation out of nowhere just for something to keep their vivacious temperament satisfied. Leo has an amazing ability to bounce back from any feelings of despair or unfortunate events. They do not like to be unhappy, it hurts their pride so they will take matters into their own hands and make things right again. Leos could come into conflict with other powerhouse type of people who will not take orders and not give an inch, Leos will not budge their opinion, they will understand and accept opinions of others but they do not take well to people to try to impose their beliefs on them. Leos most often have the temperament of a demanding, spoiled child but this is only shown if someone steps on the boundaries of their kingdom. They react this way because of their territoriality.

Leo Deep Inside:

Leos are extremely sensitive but they hide that very well. Leos love praise and flattery, their egos demand respect and adoration. Leo is all about pride. This can cause them to be self-centered but the warmth of the Leo heart keeps it under control. If Leo’s audience (otherwise known as their friends) do not provide the needed appreciation, Leo is too proud to ask for it and they will suffer a hurt ego, but no one will ever know and they will suffer in silence. The secret of the Leo is that they need to be needed.

Leo in a Nutshell:

Leo is the lion, this well-suited symbol represents Leo very well. They possess a kingdom which they protect and cherish. The are high esteemed, honorable and very devoted to themselves in particular! The kingdom could be anything from work to home to a partner, whatever it is, you rule it. Leo is always center stage and full of flair, they enjoy basking in the spotlight. A Leo always makes their presence known. Leos are full of energy that acts like a magnet for other people. Others are attracted to Leo’s wit, charm, and what they have to say for they speak of things grand and very interesting. Leo will never settle for second best. They want only the best which can cause lavish excessive spending habits as they enjoy their life of luxury, which is all to easily justified by the grand and magnificent Leo! Public image is very important to Leo, with luxurious possessions and ways of life, this keeps the public image in high standing. They will do whatever it takes to protect their own reputation. Leos are very generous, kind and openhearted people. If a Leo is crossed, they will strike back with force but they are not one to hold a grudge, they easily forgive, forget and move on. Leos are always trying to make things right in the world, they have larger than life emotions and they need to feel like they have accomplished something at the end of the day. They react to situations with action instead of sitting back and thinking about it, they are not impulsive however because they look at the future and consider consequences of their actions.

What it’s like to date a Leo Woman:

The first step is to give her praise and adoration. The relationship will never work if she does not receive this from you. Do not look at other women when you are with her, she has to be the only one in your eyes. The thought of competition with other women completely turns her off, for she is marvelous and grand and better than any other woman (in her eyes)! Be prepared however to compete with other men. She attracts men, deliberately or not, because of her dazzling personality. She makes a good partner because she gives undying affection and love and makes you feel really good about yourself. She is kind and supportive with an adventurous streak, she is always fun to be with. Leo woman will dominate, But not completely for she still needs the man to lead the way and give her the desired sense of approval, she looks up to her man. Leo woman is perfect for the man who is affectionate and has a strong character but not too controlling. She needs someone who is passionate about everything in their life and who strives for the best in everything, because so does she.

The Wit and Wisdom of Mark Twain

I think I love this man:

The wit and wisdom of Mark Twain–wow, I just love his mind! Here are just a few of my favorite lines:

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

I don’t like to commit myself about heaven and hell – you see, I have friends in both places.

You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.

Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.

It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.

Never put off till tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.

Get your facts first, then you can distort them as you please.

It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.

And that is just a start. Literally, all of his quotes are epic. You can see a plethora here:

Mark Twain Quotes

As soon as I’m done reading my stack of books, I’m so reading his biography and all his works. I want to know more about the man that could make one laugh and one cry all in the same sitting. Looking forward to enjoying more of the Wit and Wisdom of Mark Twain!

The Students Will Appear

I have come across the following quote a lot lately:

When the student is ready the teacher will appear

I really like the thought and know it is true because people consistently come into my life teaching me valuable lessons just as fast as I’m ready. I could literally create a timeline of individuals who came into my life and significantly impacted my direction, beginning with my very own parents. Each of the following individuals listed below taught me in one way or other and changed my life for the better:

Mrs. Perry (4th Grade Teacher), Michael Weston (senior year), Brandon at Utah State, Mike Woodbury at WSU, Jan Keim Weber High, Levi King, Cher Realtor, Debbie America’s Mortgage, Joan Gilmour, Tami Nelson, Britt Foham, Tami and Rita, Aaron Edwards (Deaf Divorcé), Robert Wareham, Ryan Arnold, Paul Gomez, Kristin Barrus, Derral Eves, Tyler Seamons, Mother Teresa, Cory Keate, Seth Godin, Matt Misbach, Stephen Covey, Gandhi, Adyashanti, Buddha, Mark Reese, Jack Kornfield, John Edwards, James Thomson, and who knows how many more. And forgive me for the many I failed to list.

Lately, I’ve been wondering if I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I love marketing and helping business owners, but I often wonder if this is the message I’m most passionate about. Reality is, I just love teaching others about what I’m learning. That realization made so much sense to me today because I can’t tell you how many times I go to quote

When the student is ready the teacher will appear

and the quote comes out backward:

When the teacher is ready the student(s) will appear

I finally understand why I kept producing this Freudian slip. For me, it expresses my unique talent and passion. I LOVE sharing what I learn! As I study, individuals who also want to learn what I’m learning suddenly appear. They offer to share their wealth (aka $$)  with me in exchange for mine. I cannot tell you how remarkable and liberating this realization has been. Getting paid to learn is the most rewarding way to earn a living. What a gift I’ve been given! 

I cannot tell you how remarkable and liberating this realization has been. Because I’ve recognized this pattern in my life, I’ve decided to grant myself unrestricted license to pursue whatever subject captivates my fancy for I know nothing is frivolous. What I mean is I used to worry that everything I studied needed to be something I could directly monetize in order to provide a living for my family. I now know that when the teacher is ready, the students will appear! All I need to do is keep on learning. What an amazing gift I’ve been given! Getting paid to learn is the most rewarding way to earn a living!

Understanding and Fear

I have a theory about understanding and fear. We fear that which we don’t understand. That is why I believe the scriptures admonish us to gain understanding:

with all thy getting get understanding (Proverbs 4:7).

Understanding opens our hearts which leads to compassion and love. And perfect love casteth out all fear.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear (1 Jn 4:18).

I used to be afraid of studying certain subjects. I was taught they were bad. Recently, I have been studying books on all subjects. I have studied all the major world religions, spirituality, dreams, visions, NDE’s (near death experiences), neurology, history, and more. And I have a list of topics I can’t wait to dive into that include astronomy, astrology, energy, paranormalities, psychic powers,  astral planes, etc. and this list gets ever longer because every time I read one a book on one of these new topics, I discover a slew of new topics that captivate my fancy and I can barely wait to dive on in. I can’t believe how much time I’ve wasted in fear. And this fear has not only kept me from understanding; it has kept me from love.

He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Understanding engenders eliminates fear. Where there is no fear, there is love. I refuse to live in fear, therefore, I will religiously seek understanding.

Which is Right?

Here is my new favorite gem of a story. Symbolic and rich with meaning in so many ways. I’ll just share what I’ve titled Which is Right? and you can apply as you like.

Two men who were having a dispute sought out an elderly rabbi to help them settle. Having listened to the first, the rabbi replied, “You are in the right.” The second man insisted on being heard and after hearing, the rabbi replied, “You’re also right.” The wife of the rabbi, who was in the other room, called out, “But they both can’t be right!” The rabbi reflects and then nods before concluding, “You’re also right!”

And so you have it–some serious food for thought. Was the rabbi right? Is rightness relative and how is one to determine which is right?

Seneca

I cannot believe I am just now discovering Seneca! His words are mighty, inspiring and life changing. Thank you, Tim Ferris, for the introduction. Positively brilliant!

Today I read Seneca’s letter Discursiveness in Reading. He is a hearty proponent of thoroughly digesting the works of a few great authors over nibbling from several.

Be careful, however, lest this reading of many authors and books of every sort may tend to make you discursive and unsteady. You must linger among a limited number of master thinkers, and digest their works, if you would derive ideas which shall win firm hold in your mind. Everywhere means nowhere. When a person spends all his time in foreign travel, he ends by having many acquaintances, but no friends. And the same thing must hold true of men who seek intimate acquaintance with no single author, but visit them all in a hasty and hurried manner.

Now whether or not I agree with his argument is not the point of my post today, for what I found most impactful was this statement:

everywhere is nowhere

Sometimes I feel that way as I try to multi-task through a slew of to-dos. I have learned that I do better when I tackle one task at a time–and my performance peaks when I don’t overload my plate. I achieve the flow state when I work with single-minded focus.

Furthermore, Seneca believed:

The primary indication of a well-ordered mind is a man’s ability to remain in one place and linger in his own company.

Again, life is so much more peaceful and enjoyable when you aren’t overprogrammed and frazzled. It seems that our consumerism society suffers from over-buying, over-committing, over-spending, over-scheduling, over-programming, over-everything. There is something to be said about cutting back. Simplifying. Sitting still. Meditating. Pondering. Being at Peace.

Epicurus wisely stated:

Contented poverty is an honourable estate.

To which Seneca added:

Indeed, if it be contented, it is not poverty at all. It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.

I agree with Seneca when it comes to money, but where I seem to still struggle with a paucity mentality regards the realm of time. I still sometimes feel that I never have enough. Even though I’ve been allotted the same as others, I often pine for more. And while I strive mightily to optimize my every hour, the optimization efforts have a way of becoming quite onerous.

That is why I also like to apply Seneca’s wisdom from his letter The Discursiveness of Reading to the way I view time.  When I find myself focusing on my lack of time, I feel poor. When I stop seeking to perfectly “manage” my time, I feel rich and free.  For me, learning to enjoy my time no matter my endeavor is something I’m working on. I don’t always have to be doing something productive

For me, learning to enjoy my time, no matter my endeavor, is something I’m working on. I don’t always have to be doing something productive because time, like money, is meant to be spent. The abundance mentality I feel so strongly about when it comes to wealth is something I’m striving to transfer to my perception of time.

As Seneca so wisely states:

Do you ask what is the proper limit to wealth? It is, first, to have what is necessary, and, second, to have what is enough.

When it comes to time or money, feeling that you have sufficient for your needs is true wealth indeed.

SteemIt

Well, I did it! I finally signed up for steem it and made my first two posts. I submitted the first one late last night and the second one I just barely posted this morning. My first post was entitled Happy Endings and can be read here:

https:[email protected]/happy-endings

Today’s post is titled: Let Freedom Ring | The Truth About Beliefs and can be read here:

Let Freedom Ring | The Truth About Beliefs and can be read here:

and can be read here:

https:[email protected]/let-freedom-ring-or-the-truth-about-beliefs

I already had 2 people read and upvote my first post. And that was before I learned how to add a picture. That means my post had no thumbnail. So this morning I researched how to add a thumbnail and went back and edited it. It will be fun to see if adding images result in more clicks and votes.  I suspect it will. Additionally, you can promote your posts. I think I will need to try that when I feel like I’ve curated enough content and I like a post enough to share it. Seems like you will only get out of steemit what you put into it and that requires so much more than creating content. I think you need to be in there commenting on others posts and basically being active. Honestly, I ain’t got no time for that. What I think I will do is jus keep creating content because I do it on my blog anyway and at least here I can earn some small cash. It won’t amount to much, but it will maybe be kind of fun. I’ll post there for one week and if at the end it seems worth it, I’ll continue.

Here’s to collecting steem by letting off some steam! 😉

Morpheus on Beliefs

So I finally watched the CleanFlicks version of the Matrix. In fact, Matt and I borrowed the trilogy from a friend. There were some great quotes in the series–even if some of the fight scenes lasted WAY too long.  One of my favorite quotes was from Morpheus on beliefs. You can watch it now:

Commander Locke:
Damnit, Morpheus, not everyone believes what you believe.

Morpheus:
My beliefs don’t require them to.

What a wonderful world this would be if everyone believed as Morpheus. I’ve got more to say about beliefs and truths, but right now I’m more interested in going to bed.

Driving Me Crazy

I keep having dreams where I’m in the brown van and it’s driving me crazy! I’m never the driver and I’m not sure what to make of it. The feeling is always one of not being in control of my life anymore and as I type this it makes more sense as that vehicle–the Misbach Misfire–is a vehicle Matt and I bought together when we got married and blended our families. I guess what bothers me the most this morning is that I’m never the driver of this vehicle (even though it’s equally mine), and I’m not even in the front seat. I’m always mid-section, which I guess is better than the very back.

At least there are windows that I can see out of, but fetch I feel like I’m trapped in this dang van! Despite how big the vehicle is, I’ve always got someone sitting right beside me, with the food box, cooler, groceries and baggage up against me. It’s not enough space! I’m feeling cramped and trapped! I wish I were just on my scooter. My scooter is fun. My scooter represents freedom to me. I love the wind in my face and that I’m the one driving. I’m in control when I’m on my scooter. It’s zippy. It’s light. I can easily maneuver it.

They always say that your recurring dreams won’t stop till you resolve the underlying issue. What is it going to take to get me out of this damn brown van? Or at least move me up into the front passenger seat? Or make it so it’s not so cramped and crowded? Also, since it’s my dream, shouldn’t I be the one driving the vehicle? I mean, shouldn’t I be the one deciding the direction of my life? But if the vehicle is just a representation of real life, then I’m totally fine with someone else, or Matt, driving because in reality Matt is the one who drives when we are in that vehicle. In fact, in real life, I like when Matt drives so I can sit in the passenger seat and work on my laptop.

In reality, whenever I need to run an errand, however, I don’t mind driving the brown van. In fact, I feel powerful and safe in it. I feel like a general in command of a tank–but when I’m on a long road trip and feeling stuck in the middle–trapped and cramped–I super long to get out and simply ride my scooter.

Looks like my brown van dreams aren’t really driving me crazy, but rather are simply revealing my need for additional space, control and direction.  Once I’m consistently cruising along at high speeds on either my scooter or in a burnt orangeToyota Tacoma, I’ll finally know I’ve successfully resolved all my space, control and direction issues in my life. 🙂