Dream Work

This Thursday I’ll be speaking to a bunch of entrepreneur majors at Weber State University about Dream Work. I presented at the same Nye Lecture Series last year and my presentation covered some foundational principles for success. This year, I was asked to speak again and was given the deadline of August for my topic submission. I hate supplying presentation topics so far in advance because I dislike being beholden to a topic that I may no longer feel passionate about or find relevant when presentation time rolls around. I purposely selected Dream Work as my topic as I felt it was broad enough to not box me in.

I’d love to start my presentation by asking the students what comes to mind when they hear the phrase “Dream Work?” I’m guessing the answers will include things such as:

Working a job that you love

Landing your dream job

Working toward your dreams

And while I intend to discuss those items, I also want to talk about the importance of doing dream work. I want to show them what I’ve done with my dreams and how I’m literally working them. I want to discuss the following:

  • Working–Here’s a quote I think I created: “Everything works out for those who don’t quit working.”

This principle has proved true for me. I always get on my knees as if everything depends on God and then get up on my feet and go to work as if everything depends on me. Things have always worked out for me and I think it is because I never give up. The obstacle becomes the way for me for in seeking to move it, go around it, or climb over it, I grow, learn, and ultimately, become.

  • Dreaming–Don’t stop believing! I think that is a song by Journey haha. But truly, I want to tell them that they can be and do anything they set their minds to. The universe conspires with those who take bold, persuasive action. We just must simply begin. I believe that each of us was born with music inside. We can’t let it die inside! We must play it! I want to encourage each of them to figure out what moves them. Find out what brings you joy and then do more of it! There is no excuse for mediocrity and to not do what you love. Life is too short. YOLO. Tony Hawk made a living doing something he loved, so did Michelangelo. What do you love to do? As Nike would say, Just Do It!
  • Be a Dream Worker. What does a dream worker do?
    • Dream workers ask, “How may I serve?” not “What’s in it for me?” When we go through life with an attitude of helping others to get what they want, the universe reciprocates by helping us get whatever we want. Yes, serve others, and the universe serves you. We live in an abundant universe. I want to emphasize to the students the power of operating from an abundance mindset and not a scarcity mindset. When we realize that there is enough and to spare, we can give of our time and resources abundantly for we know there will be enough and more to come. We will resist the small-minded manner of hoarding and competing. We will work to unite and share. We will build rather than tear down.
    • Dream workers work their dreams. Working your dreams means working on yourself. Our dreams increase self-awareness. We should stop sleeping through our dreams. I intend to teach the students about the importance of dream recall and recording. I will share with them my Dream Eye Fly journey and what our dreams can teach us. I will encourage them to start remembering and recording their dreams so that they can improve their waking life. I will close with the following:

Dream On. Work Your Dreams. Never Stop Dreaming.

And yah, I’m glad I chose Dream Work back in August for it’s still a relevant topic I’m highly passionate about. Should be good. Wish I had more time to prepare, but honestly, my time is highly occupied by other matters right now.

Joy

This is my friend Joyce, but I sometimes call her Joy because she brings me so much joy. Today we got haircuts. Joyce wanted to cut her hair short like mine.

Joyce never leaves her house. In fact, she rarely leaves her chair. This is where she sits all day and sleeps all night. Joyce hadn’t had a haircut in almost a decade. I love visiting Joyce because she is always happy. She never complains. She is a beautiful woman inside and out and I’m grateful I know her. She is a blessing to me and my family. I never will forget the joy I experienced with Joyce today as I helped my friend cut her hair.

Between You and God

I love Mother Teresa! She is one of my heroes. Today, I was pondering this quote:

In the final analysis, it is all between you and God . . .

I love this quote so much because it’s a powerful reminder of whose business we should be about, and of that which we should be concerned. Who cares what others think about our decisions and our beliefs. Ultimately, we will be judged on the “content of our character,” not our religious affiliations, color of our skin, our gender, our socio-economic status, etc. Who we are and what we have become is what matters in the end.

When we concern ourselves with the opinion of God, and not the opinion of men, we cannot go wrong. God is love. Therefore we are God when we love.

Furthermore, God loves us no matter what. In fact, there is nothing we can ever do that will separate us from the love of God. His love is always there. We only feel separated when we forget to connect with him. Spencer W. Kimball always said if you are feeling distant from God, “Who moved?” God isn’t ever moving away from us. Closing the distance is up to us. And I like to think of it even different than that because I believe God will feel after us. He doesn’t let us run away from him (yes, we can’t get very far from Him) for His love follows us wherever we go “for he causeth his son (sun) to shine on the good and the bad,” so really we just have to turn and face Him for He is always right there. Maya Angelou always says, “Wherever you go, there you are.” Well, I like to apply that quote to God, “Wherever you go, there He/She/They are.”

It’s really hard for me nowadays to just refer to a loving Heavenly Father and only use the pronoun Him. If I have a Heavenly Father who loves me and blesses me, surely I have a Mother in Heaven who is equally involved. If not, why would I ever aspire–as a woman–to be a God someday? So I can play a quiet, passive, supportive role? Sorry, woman has been playing the quiet, passive, supportive role for centuries here on planet earth. I’ve enjoyed seeing her impressive strides forward to equality. Great gains have been made, but there are still miles to go before she sleeps. It’s an amazing time to be alive and to be a woman. Never before have we had so many rights, privileges, and opportunities. I thrill to think what the future holds for my daughters and my son.

Alas, I diverged as the point of my post today is to free yourself from the good and bad opinion of others and instead focus on the opinion of God. ‘Tis the Divine that matters most and it never was between you and them, it always has and will be between you and God.

The Purpose of Paradox

I originally wrote this post and titled it “Hurt so Good.” I was interrupted prior to publishing and as I revisited it, I decided to change the title to “The Purpose of Paradox.” The evolution needs no explaining, simply commence your read.

Hurt so Good? Sounds like a paradox, doesn’t it? I mean, how can something that hurts, feel good? Well, that is what happens at Structura. I had a deep fascia massage and everything about it was intense! There were parts that hurt SO bad, and the only thing that made it bearable was that I knew it was doing me good.  I told myself the sensations were not pain. I told my body that the sensations were AMAZING, and producing results. Whenever the sensations became abominably uncomfortable, I focused on the fact that training my fascia would help me achieve my pistol squats, along with a few other moves I cannot yet do because of mobility restrictions.

Visualizing myself able to achieve these advanced yoga positions made it possible for me to endure the torture. In fact, the future realization made the hurt so good.

I am particularly fond of paradoxes. In fact, I wrote about another paradox the other night Giving up for Gain   And tonight I came across another one I liked:

Infinite Patience Produces Immediate Results

I find it fascinating that contradictions can help us see more clearly. Seems like I’ve stumbled upon another paradox–contradiction clarity.

No Problems

I’ve been reading a really good book called There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem. Dr. Dyer believes that there are no problems, just problematic thinking. We can overcome any problem by simply changing the way we think.

Dr. Dyer believes that the moment we succumb to worry, fear, anxiety, stress, etc. we cut ourselves off from our higher source. God is love, peace, and joy. Anytime we are feeling anything less than this, means we are out of touch with spirit. The key to finding solutions and eliminating problems lies in staying connected to God. No God= No good.

The moment you recognize a negative thought, change it. We get what we want. Conversely, we get what we don’t want. So the key is to focus your thoughts on what it is you want to have happen and don’t waste any precious energy on that which you don’t want to happen.

Case in point, today I caught an Uber ride to the airport. We were already cutting it close as our meeting went long. My flight was scheduled to leave Tampa at 6:45 pm. We left for the airport at 5 pm and hit rush hour. To make matters worse, the GPS took us to downtown. When we finally realized the mistake (I had a new Uber driver who had just moved to Tampa a few weeks ago so had no idea where he was going either), it was 5:45 and we still had 30 minutes to the airport. I felt a slight panic rise in my chest as I realized we had a serious problem. I was going to miss my flight. In that moment, I remembered Dr. Dyer’s teachings and instead of seeing this as a problem, I instead chose to focus on the fact that God was with me and if I needed to miss this flight I would, conversely, if I needed to make it I would. Instead of thinking, “I’m not going to make my flight,” I started thinking, “I’m going to make my flight.” I went from panic to peace in less than 10 seconds. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that everything would work out. I didn’t have a problem at all. What I did have was an opportunity to realize that missing my flight was no big deal. I’d get a hotel, stay another night and find another flight. I’d also probably make my flight too if I really needed too. Cuz that is how the Universe works.

I was able to enjoy the remainder of my drive with my Uber man and didn’t create any unnecessary stress for either of us. It was truly pleasant. I was really grateful for the concepts I had been studying and that I had a chance to apply them so soon after learning them. The early application has cemented the no problems perspective clearly in my quiver. And no, I don’t have a problem with that metaphor as I know exactly what it means. 🙂

Giving Up for Gain

I just came across this killer quote:

One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.

I’m going to summarize this principle as Giving Up for Gain. It is something I have come to appreciate a lot lately as I’ve walked a more Zen and Buddha path. Detaching from outcomes, freeing yourself from the good opinion of others, accepting reality, allowing people to be as they are, all of these true principles perfectly illustrate Giving Up for Gain.

When you are able to give up your need to control others and simply allow them to be as they are, you are gaining peace of mind and improving your relationship with that person. When you are able to detach from outcomes you are giving up your need for control and gaining serenity and trust. The universe smiles kindly upon those who allow it to do its work. No one likes a meddler yah?

When you give up your need to be right, or your need to be liked, you are gaining personal freedom to be who and what you are. Following your own life path is one of the most rewarding, joyful, fulfilling journeys you can make. I cannot imagine traveling my life path any other way. And I love that I have discovered we all have our own unique life paths. There is no “one” right way to do anything. There are many ways and you should do whatever feels right for you.

I gave up my business, I literally just walked away and gave it to one of my epic employees. I have gained peace of mind, more time, and an incredible new career. I am feeling so grateful for all the personal growth I’ve experienced. I’m grateful for my life path that is teaching me everything I need to know as I need to know it. I love people. I love my life. I love my family. I love my husband. I love God, Universe, Spirit, and the eternal soul. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU.

I wonder where else I can apply the principle Giving Up for Gain?

Day One

Well, today was Day One of what I’m calling my Nutra Adventure. It was really fun. I could hardly sleep last night for I was so excited to get up and get to work. I felt just like a child on the night before the first day of school.

I really enjoyed meeting my fellow co-workers. Nick from HR was great and we had a lot of fun going over my benefits. I have to say that the CEO is very generous and has created a killer benefits package. He explained to me how the new benefits package cost the company an additional 2 million but that he felt it was worth it and important for them as a “health and wellness company” to walk their talk.

My office needs some work. It’s a nice location and I can see out a lovely window across the hall. I don’t yet have my treadmill desk nor do I have much else of anything. Nick and I were laughing as I couldn’t find a pen. He snuck away and returned with a stash of post-it notes, pens, highlighters, paper pads, and a box of Kleenex. It felt like Christmas!  And those were just stocking stuffers because next we headed down to the IT Department where I was given a new iPhone 6 Plus S and a new MacBook. The IT Department isn’t too keen on Apple products so I spent a good 3 hours at the AT&T store getting everything ported over. In fact, I didn’t get home till 6:30 pm.

Oh, this was funny. I was able to introduce myself at the executive meeting at 9am. The equity group had flown in to go over budgets and such.  I was invited to come join and introduce myself and then I was excused. It was funny cuz I thought I was an executive haha. My ego needs a good check every now and then so it was good for me. And after seeing how long everyone was tied up in those budget meetings, I was grateful I was dismissed as it enabled me to make a dent in my “to-do list.”

Then, while I was busy working away, Dave stopped in my office at noon to see if I could accompany him and Chad on a last minute business trip to Tampa. We are on a confidential acquisition mission. I’m really excited about the opportunity and what I’ll learn. I’m also pumped to be able to share my expertise. I had a couple of opportunities already today as Stan and Nic stopped in to get some help and Amazon advice for the international expansion.

I have several items still undone tonight that will require a late night. I’m trying to finalize the transfer of KickFire Classics, Svêlo, and KickFire Marketing. I’ve got a few clients that still need some hand-holding during the hand-off as well. It will be nice when everything is all tied up. I’m feeling super grateful for all my many blessings. I’m excited to get to know everyone at NutraCorp. My mission each day will be to serve the company and my co-workers with all my heart, might, mind, strength, and soul. Here’s to the beginning of another wonderful chapter in my epic life. Day One, such fun!

 

God’s Goods are Great

God’s goods are great That’s right! God is SO good and the good’s he delivers are so great! I have been thinking a lot lately about how God is the great giver of all good gifts and how he answers prayers in mysterious ways. The answers, gifts, and goods always come in incredible ways. The scriptures talk about how God answers in his own time and in his own way. I have found this to be true. I have also found that we are not left bereft of music as he orchestrates his Divine Plans. In fact, he blesses our senses with soothing symphonies all along till that climactic crescendo–the moment He opens the windows of Heaven and pours out his blessings upon us in such abundance that we don’t have room enough to receive. The bounty takes our breath away and we sit in awe, spellbound by majesty, magnificence, and beauty of it all.

There was a time when I tried to be the maestro. I thought I knew just what needed to be done to Divinely direct the symphonies of my life. I’ve learned now that I don’t know nearly as much about music and Divine Orchestration as the Master. I’ve learned to let God do the conducting and to sit back and enjoy the unfolding.

I read this quote this morning that really spoke to me:

God always gives his best to those who leave the choice to him.

To me, that means being content to allow God the time and space to answer in his way and in his time. It’s always better this way for I’ve discovered through personal experience that when God does finally deliver, he delivers big time! His gifts are so much greater than we can ever even imagine. I remember feeling this way when I met Matt. He was–and is–so much more than I ever could have even hoped for. I was praying to meet a righteous dude. Who knew that I’d not only find a righteous dude, but one I’m attracted to, who enjoys being active, working hard, playing hard, and praying hard. He is my #1 fan and inspires me to be and do better. I love him and am grateful for him. I still marvel that God brought such an incredibly perfect fit into my life in his time and his way. I’m grateful for his Divine Orchestration, his timing, his music, and his plan every single day.

Just recently, I had another instance where God answered my prayers in a remarkable, his own time, kind of way. I had been praying for the ability to simplify my life. I have been feeling for several years that my work-life balance was out of balance. I loved my work (KickFire), but it felt like it was taking over my life. I was just starting to create some sanity and sacred space when Tyler was diagnosed with brain cancer. Life, which was already crazy busy, became exceedingly worse. I honestly never thought I could get more slammed, until I did. I worked hard to get things back under wraps and I told myself that once I had things reigned back in, I was really going to be done with the insanity. The crisis was past and then, in the Lord’s perfect timing, an incredible job opportunity appeared. It was completely unexpected and totally out of nowhere. It was something that I never before would have entertained, but because of Tyler’s mishap, and work becoming even crazier, I was open to the idea.

The seed was planted and as I thought about the possibilities of leaving my own business to help build someone else’s the thought became delicious to me. I could see it all so clearly now as the perfect answer to my prayers. It wasn’t the way I would have solved my work-life balance problem, it was a solution far beyond my imagination at the time. The position, opportunity, and compensation are all incredible. God’s goods are great! And his Divine Orchestrations are music to my ears. I’m grateful for his conducting and that he didn’t leave me bereft of music while he led me toward the climactic crescendo. I’ll never tire of his soothing symphonies and the ways He leads me, guides me, and walks beside me. Thank you for your great goods God!

Working it Out

For a long time, I have been saying “things will work; they always do.” I do believe that things will work out and that everything is always as it should be. I wonder, however, if things really do just work out or if things have a way of working out as we go to work working it out?”

I have always loved the quote:

Pray as if it all depends upon God

and go to work as if it all depends upon you.

and Ralph Waldo Emerson said:

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.

I feel that when we are men and women of action, good things happen. Things always do work out for those who go about working it out.

 

Secure Insecurity

I was going to title today’s post insecure security but opted for secure insecurity instead.  My thoughts were stirred after reading this quote:

Only the insecure strive for security

Those who aren’t confident in their own abilities look for safeguards, guarantees, and promises. Security doesn’t come from positions, possessions, and professions. No, nothing external can give us security because we everything outside of us lies outside our control. If we can’t control it, it can easily change, and where is the security in not knowing what the future will bring?

And therein lies the paradox. How can one properly prepare for a future he cannot predict? We can’t. But we can learn to not fear change. We can learn to trust in ourselves and our abilities to adequately adapt to change. We can strengthen our tolerance for insecurity, and we can learn to cultivate the only type of security worth striving for–internal security. Internal security is knowing that you can handle any situation that comes your way. This is truly the only real security for your job may end, your health may fail, your house may burn down, your spouse may die, aliens may swoop down on you and transport you to a brand new planet. Everything you own and have known will be left behind. How well will you survive on your new planet? Will you thrive, or will you shrivel up and die bereft of all your external securities? If you are internally secure with external insecurities, you will be a-okay.

Here’s a poem by James Kavanaugh I thoroughly enjoyed:

Someday I’ll walk away

And be free

And leave the sterile ones

Their secure sterility.

I’ll leave without a forwarding address

And walk across some barren wilderness

To drop the world there.

Then wander free of care

Like an unemployed Atlas.

Just imagine what the world would be like today if everyone stayed secure. Would Columbus have sailed the ocean blue? Would Washington have left Mt. Vernon to lead rag-tag troops? Would Susan B. Anthony, Gandhi, and Martin Luther King, Jr. have led their revolutions?

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by. . .

Do you dare to be securely insecure? I agree with Sir Albert Einstein:

The most beautiful thing we can experience is the myserious.

Do you dare to take the road less traveled by? Can you be securely insecure? Learning to embrace change, no learning to seek change, makes all the difference for once we stop changing we stop growing and that which isn’t growing is dying. Live, learn, and grow.